How to Communicate with Each Behavioral Type

Every behavioral trait in the DISC model shares common traits with each other. However, every conflicting behavioral style doesn’t share similar traits and are completely unknown to each other. Simply put:

  • D and I styles are regarded as fast paced and active
  • S and I styles are people have an accepting nature and focus on people
  • C and S styles work at a moderate pace and overly cautious
  • D and C styles focus on their tasks and have questioning nature; they’re also less accepting than S and I styles, coming across as mistrusting.

How Does It Help You With The Daily Communication Of Others Around You?

It’s important you understand that we have more in common with people around us. All we need to do is find those commonalities to establish a foundation of friendship and relationship.

It can highlight the blind spots – people we tend not to have a thing in common with because they have conflicting behavioral type to our own. It’s often the reason people tend not to click with each other from the start. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it’s just their behavioral style is different from your own and doesn’t mesh with how you see the world.

High D Types

  • These people are easily annoyed with S types because of their slow-paced style combined with their innate ability to smile at anything. They’d rather get things done and done quickly, which makes them incompatible with people who fall in the S types who like taking their time, who respond with smiles and in kind, and give a listening ear to everybody.
  • High D types will give their quality time to others’ talking but must make a consciousness effort to be the same way. They live by the motto “Just Do It!” and feel accomplished when the tasks are done.

High S Styles

  • People who fall into this category tend to feel threatened by the constant, “Let’s Go” attitude the D types display. For S types, D types have no feelings, are too demanding and often do sloppy work. They would rather finish what they start and take their time to ensure the job is done well the first time around. They don’t like changes in their environment and are resistant to D types desire to change things.
  • S Types feel offended by the suggestion D types make. They have no understanding as to why a person would be unfriendly and hyper. They’d rather be in a friendly environment where there are no changes; they know what they have to do and don’t feel pressure from upper management or co-workers.

High I Types

  • These are social butterflies who love taking the easy road in life and socialize. They don’t understand C types at all. People who fall into the High I type don’t view the organization as important because of the effort that must be taken to get things done. It’s rare that a person would be IC or IS. They have no interest in getting to the heart of things.
  • They put their attention on the bigger picture – tasks that ensure they attain their goals through others. People who fall in the C type don’t have any interest in socializing and don’t have much response to the jokes and humor of high I types. High I folks love people and are often offended by C’s lack of response to their attempts to get them to socialize. High I types want a place where they can shine and where their humor is noticed. They have the desire to succeed in life and want to be appreciated for the work they do.
  • Since they love people, they love it when they can make other people who are around them happy.

High C Types

  • These folks will give their utmost attention to tasks they are working on. When they’re at work, they think socialization should be avoided. They live by the standard that they’re there to do a job and socializing has a place for itself. Due to their nature, they tend to work best alone or with people who are like them. They cannot stand when I types go on and on about their day and their constant smiling.
  • They feel the High Is are phony – that nobody can smile that much and have that much energy. They feel their work is sloppy and doesn’t involve focus. High C types desire a setting where they can put their attention solely on the job. They’d rather not be bothered with distractions that often come with High Is. While they’d like to be a part of a group, they don’t want to do it in a job setting.

It’s no surprise that you face some difficult folks in your life. However, if you look at the whole thing in an objective manner, it’s their behavioral style that will help you learn what you need to learn.

  • High D Types – Slow down a bit to listen to what people around you are saying, and smile more often.
  • High I Types – Reach out to High C types to find out how they stay some organized; purchase tapes and books that give you ideas on staying organized. Put your attention on the tasks at hand, and if you must, schedule them.
  • High S Types – It’s okay to say, “You’re sorry” or “No”. It’s okay to say, “Could you come back later” for people who want to talk. People may abuse your kindness, which is why you could take a lesson from D types and see how they deal with interruptions. Be more assertive… it’s okay to be assertive. Jobs don’t demand perfection. If you want to work faster, go ahead even if the outcome is less than perfect.
  • High C Types – Go ahead and smile, tell a joke – something you might have heard. If the work you do doesn’t demand perfection, go ahead and work faster.

Does this mean you’re locked into a behavior style? Not according to DISCflex theory. Most people are not a pure style; they are a combination of styles. We know what are strengths and weaknesses are, and when we know these, we have the ability to learn from opposing styles and become better communicators.

Nobody wants to talk to people who are selfish, rebellious, slow, stupid, cold or whatever else. Do you want to be this person?

Everybody has something they can learn from each style, but it’s the people who get under our skin the most – the people who are our exact opposites. Bear in mind that nobody is really out to get you. We act the way we do because of nature and nurture.

Nobody is weird! We’re all wired differently.

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